“I remember everything.” is how Elio describes his sexual awakening summer romance with Oliver.
I wish he was the only one who remembers everything because I haven’t thought about any other movie since I saw Luca Guadagnino’s 2017 film, Call Me By Your Name. I remember everything. For the longest time it felt like I never could truly properly write about this movie because it was simply hard to explain how personal it felt to me. Every kiss, every movement, every laugh, every dance, every look, goodbye, embrace. If I could talk about them, I would. But I couldn’t even begin. I didn’t know where to start.
Call Me By Your Name is innocent and raw. It’s a story on the journey of falling in love in your youth, and also the heart-aching grief and desolation that comes with getting your heart broken for the first time. Elio’s summer romance felt so personal that you feel connected with him as he contemplates back and forth his attraction towards Oliver. He also takes you with him as he grapples with his feelings until the final moment that he gets his heart painstakingly shattered. The final scene in which he eventually comes to terms with his emotions and breaks down so honestly in front of us, has got to be one of the best ever and raw-est depiction of emotion in cinema ever. It was Timothée Chalamet’s performance that makes it so heartbreakingly beautiful, but the subtle direction and the powerful scoring contribute greatly as well.
The script is so honest and so pure that it never felt forced or artificial. It’s completely candid and sensitive and tender all at the same time. The script’s “nakedness” is what makes it so astonishingly true-to-life because it parallels with how unembellished first love is. The whole story successfully unlocked my deepest memories of my first love and managed to weave Elio’s story with mine creating this sentimentality as if the movie is mine.
The two characters were far from perfect, but they were real. The movie was never about homosexuality (which people mistake it for), rather, it’s the opposite ingraining in its audience that homosexuality is so similar to normal love that it shouldn’t be treated as a big deal, because it’s normal. Elio and Oliver’s love story is simply just love. It’s not trying to make a statement or any social commentary. It is simply being. Their love is not set apart from other kinds of love. And the fact that this movie connects with the audience despite their sexual orientations and beliefs simply proves it.
In fact, everything that happens in the movie are so simple that it has the ability to connect with anyone. The characters engage in simple conversations, mundane tasks, and day-to-day nothingness. I haven’t seen this kind of intimacy of a film with the customary since Richard Linklater’s Before trilogy (Before Sunrise, Before Sunset, and Before Midnight), and those films are my absolute favorite! So the fact that Call Me By Your Name was able to incorporate the same kind of theme is probably why I enjoyed it a lot. By the time the two characters were climbing up that mountain and Sufjan Stevens’s ‘Mystery of Love’ was playing, I knew that the deal was sealed. I had fallen in love with the film.